I know I've already said this, but anger can be a good thing, if you're in control of it. There's nothing inherently wrong with being dangerous. I know that's not what you want to hear - I know you don't want to be like this at all - but self-control is attainable. If you want me to teach you how to find it.
Did something happen between you two, or did you just... grow apart? Are you sure your behaviour was the issue?
[ "she was the only good thing i had", oh my god, go buy an alanis morissette cd. no, okay, no. if derek bit his tongue over scott and allison as much as he did, he can bite his tongue over some poor kid who feels too hard getting attached to his ex. just... young love is stupid and he hates it. ]
Dads never like their daughter's boyfriends. Don't worry. We all make mistakes. You can't define yourself by the things you've done.
[ he says, like a hypocrite. ]
Besides, I'm sure it wasn't that bad. And I'm sure she'll feel better just having someone from home here to keep her safe. You can't force her to like you again, but there are opportunities here to show her you've changed. Just be kind and honest and hope for the best.
It takes... practice. Work. I'll need to see you in person, if you want me to show you how to do it. It's about willpower. Control. You need anchors. Crutches. Reasons to remind you to be better. You need an outlet for that anger. Something that makes you feel good. Drained.
[ this would be so much easier to explain if tate were a werewolf, instead of some harmless kid who probably just broke up with his girlfriend of two weeks over something petty and small and stupid. ]
If she's talking to you, yeah. Shows she's willing to listen. You just need to keep being there. Being kind, without being demanding, and without expectations. Talk to her more. Without being overwhelming.
People grow apart. People change. Maybe you were alike, when you first started dating, and then - I don't know. You both got older. That happens. Doesn't mean you can't fix things. Even if you're not alike, that doesn't mean you can't be something. I've only ever dated people who were completely diametrically opposed to me.
[ it's just... a matter of where. derek's not entirely willing to give out his new address, but he's not willing to do something as intimate as training control somewhere he doesn't feel safe. derek's going to... have to text stiles. ]
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my girlfriend's here
my ex-girlfriend?
I don't know
I don't think she likes me anymore
but I like her.
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Well...
Why doesn't she like you anymore?
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how im
like you said
"dangerous"
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I know I've already said this, but anger can be a good thing, if you're in control of it. There's nothing inherently wrong with being dangerous.
I know that's not what you want to hear - I know you don't want to be like this at all - but self-control is attainable. If you want me to teach you how to find it.
Did something happen between you two, or did you just... grow apart? Are you sure your behaviour was the issue?
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i made some mistakes
but she was the only good thing I had
and I don't want her to think I'm just
I don't want her to hate me for who I am
I want to be something better
someone better.
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Dads never like their daughter's boyfriends. Don't worry.
We all make mistakes. You can't define yourself by the things you've done.
[ he says, like a hypocrite. ]
Besides, I'm sure it wasn't that bad. And I'm sure she'll feel better just having someone from home here to keep her safe.
You can't force her to like you again, but there are opportunities here to show her you've changed.
Just be kind and honest and hope for the best.
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she used to just ignore me but now she actually talked to me
that's a good step, right? how do I keep it up?
how do I control the
what's inside me?
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It's about willpower. Control.
You need anchors. Crutches. Reasons to remind you to be better.
You need an outlet for that anger. Something that makes you feel good. Drained.
[ this would be so much easier to explain if tate were a werewolf, instead of some harmless kid who probably just broke up with his girlfriend of two weeks over something petty and small and stupid. ]
If she's talking to you, yeah. Shows she's willing to listen.
You just need to keep being there. Being kind, without being demanding, and without expectations.
Talk to her more. Without being overwhelming.
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you promise you will?
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I'll do anything
if it can help me
["win her back"]
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[ not going to keep talking about this over text, though. ]
Tell me about your ex.
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I used to think we were a lot alike
but I guess I was wrong
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Maybe you were alike, when you first started dating, and then - I don't know. You both got older. That happens.
Doesn't mean you can't fix things. Even if you're not alike, that doesn't mean you can't be something.
I've only ever dated people who were completely diametrically opposed to me.
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[They didn't age. Didn't grow. Didn't change.]
I just want her back
she was the best thing I had
I don't
I don't want to see her with anyone else
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That might not be something you get a choice in.
She's going to have to find a contract, eventually.
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[It needs to be him. He can be the only thing she needs here. The only person.]
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[ it's just... a matter of where. derek's not entirely willing to give out his new address, but he's not willing to do something as intimate as training control somewhere he doesn't feel safe. derek's going to... have to text stiles. ]
You have to be sober.
If we're doing this.
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I want to do it as soon as possible.
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I'll pick you up. Stay home until I swing by.
You won't need anything. Just.
Comfortable clothes.
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okay.
...
thanks.